I accept that I'm flawed, imperfect, selfish etc., but I'm self-aware enough to know it when my selfishness is likely to manifest as meanness to another person.I'd like to limit the damage I cause to others... As a male, if you do nothing but avoid sex anytime she has obvious genital symptoms, you are 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from her.
If she takes daily suppressive therapy, you use condoms and avoid sex when she has anything going on genitally, it's a 99% likelihood each year that you won't contract hsv2 from her.
If you look at that number very well that is several millions of American ladies that are living with herpes.
If is that risky then it will mean we are all under risk.
Many people have ask of my opinion on whether dating people with herpes is high risk or not.
While I never chose to use a herpes dating site myself, many women out there do and I totally support them in their choice. Benefits and Risks Of Using a Positive Singles Dating Site or Herpes Dating Site 1.The Talk: The most glaringly obvious benefit is that dating on a positive singles site can help to lessen the fear of having The Talk and disclosing your herpes status.Where so many women fall short is that they skip ever having “The Talk” with their new prospective positive partners, especially if both have herpes.it's not likely you contracted hsv2 from her from 2 encounters.Honestly you are much safer with someone who knows that they are hsv2 than you are with someone who doesn't get tested to know that they are infected.I'm also getting tested myself again just to check that I'm not already HSV2 positive - again I understand the national statistics of 25% incidence and there is a good chance I have it and don't know about it. but it doesn't help me create a good decision framework for the question, 'do I continue seeing her or not'. For the next 3 days while I'm waiting for my own test results, I'm not likely to share this decision framework with her. So taking a chance on her now might not work out very well for me in the long term if this relationship doesn't pan out (and I'm unlucky and catch it -but considering our chemistry, I expect there will be significantly above average freqency of sexual contact...). Do I go with the bird in hand, or move on (and hurt a decent person in the process)...